As long as you live in society and interact with others—whether you are a kindergarten student or a corporate CEO—collaboration is an ever-present reality. But do you know how to read people? Do you know how to choose the partner best suited for you?
1. Character First: The Principle
Everyone has their own interests and goals, but the critical question is why they pursue them. Some people are master manipulators—forming cliques, playing both sides, and using deceptive words solely for personal gain (power, money, status). These individuals might be highly capable and even maintain a facade of virtue, but their inner nature is toxic. It is best to keep a respectful distance; such people should never become your friends or partners. While we cannot all be selfless saints, a person with a heart of kindness, benevolence, and integrity is someone you can truly weather the storm with.
2. Attitude Second: The Root
In life and business, failure and hardship are inevitable. Only those who maintain a spirit of dedication and a tenacious, tireless attitude have a chance at success. Opportunists are friends when things go well, but they will be the first to abandon you in adversity. As the writer Lu Xun suggested, the backbone of a nation is found in those who keep running even when they are behind.
Do not judge people by their surface image; look at their attitude toward life and work. Those who have undergone hardships since childhood are often better equipped to withstand the elements. The key reason many brilliant people fail is a lack of serious, hardworking, and deep-diving work ethic. If you are not traveling the same path, you will eventually drift apart. Choose like-minded friends for a truly sincere connection.
3. Ability Third: The Foundation
Never judge a person solely on their ability, as ability is often just the foundation for development. Someone might not be exceptionally strong in one specific area, but their support and loyalty can be invaluable, making them an excellent partner. Conversely, those who are overconfident in their own high levels of skill often find it difficult to collaborate.
Furthermore, abilities are complementary. When partners support and understand each other, they progress together: “If you have an idea and I have an idea, we both end up with two ideas.” No one is omnipotent. In any cooperation, character and attitude must hold a higher priority than skill. “Virtue first” and “Combining virtue with talent” are not just standards for hiring—they are the standards for choosing your lifelong companions and fellow travelers.
To ensure things go smoothly, strive to master these three priorities!